Evolving Together #3 – Choosing Our Families
Evolving Together #3 – Choosing Our Families

Aviv Shahar with Nigel Geeves and Well

November 16, 2023

How often do we feel the people closest to us emotionally or energetically — though not related by blood or marriage — are actually our real family? We all know the saying “You can’t choose your family,” usually meant humorously when a relative does something we find embarrassing. What if we can choose our family, in all the ways that have consequence, meaning and value for our lives?

We’re not referring to bloodline or DNA. It’s the special relationships — family formed from the bonds, exchange, and shared space of new possibility created when people come together in mutual purpose and vision. How does it happen? It begins with the very real connections among all humans.

We are singular and individual, but also born with minds, systems, and highly sensitive faculties that can naturally tune into and connect with the frequencies of our fellow humans. Not only link with one another, but exchange and transfer. Which means my learning and inspiration can become your learning and inspiration; a real shared consciousness.

It gets bigger. The same inner technology that connects us with each other also integrates with much larger universal systems and intelligence, allowing the flow of evolutionary energy to feel its way into humanity. Evolving together, us and the universe. Quite a family.

This conversation continues our discovery of family and growing together begun in earlier dialogues among Aviv Shahar and Portals friends Nigel Geeves and Well. Among their ponderings and insights:

  • In the economics of the universe, rather than competing with and destroying each other, we can actually benefit each other; we access in each other the power of the work we’ve done in our unique configurations.
  • People think we get into the universe by going out there. But the codes of the universe are in us, or we wouldn't be able to see it. It’s like a tuning fork — we access the universe by going deep within ourselves.
  • Could it be that we are each products of a universal transcendence? In getting together, we're like new chemicals combining into new reactions to create a new, surrogate universe beyond the one that formed us.
  • The gift of human life and consciousness is that we’re the portal through which the universe is able to birth a new possibility; we humans become the midwifery agency of universal evolution.
  • My inner systems are way more intelligent than me. They are designed to tune into others; in that connection, I find a different part of my own life. It's like new lives get born in each meeting with another person.
  • While we're here, we have permission to create relationships. The way our body works can give guidance on how to proceed; atoms, molecules, and cells integrate and work together to support our lives.
  • Two people can meet and something else becomes possible that wasn't pre-planned. Life itself takes a huge leap forward because different lives meet, integrate, and build things together; at higher levels, it's even more extraordinary.

This conversation is part of the continuing Portals discovery into what is emerging on the frontiers of human experience in this time of profound change. Information about upcoming special events can be found on the Events page. Also visit and subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Now if we actually deeply and profoundly connect to each other, guess what? I got some of what you have, and you got some of what I have, in deep transference terms. That's an extraordinary way to grow. I don't have to do the work that you did, and you didn't have to do the work I did, and some of it transfers.


Nigel Geeves

Nigel Geeves

I’ve always been driven to look beneath the surface, to question how things work. This led me to be a scientist in my early years. I loved how, by observation and reflection, I could come to understand the underlying laws and see the simplicity that gives rise to life’s multiplicity of expression.

I came to know that whilst we cannot see life directly, that there was a stable platform of natural order through which all life expresses itself.  Further, I realized that we humans are not completely bound by the network of established law. What is the meaning and significance of finding oneself to be human with faculties of consciousness and choice? We humans are each unique, but how can we embrace the power of difference in harmonic pursuit of becoming fit for purpose?



Grew up on a small island, close to nature and moved by the elemental power of the tides. Creativity and science were both influential, leading to a love of writing and a study of physics - the beginning of a dance between the realms of order and freedom.

Five years of independent travel expanded horizons. Connection to the purposes of life was awakened and a knowing that an elevating epoch change was coming. Growth began into the process of sharing and integration that allows everything to work together.

Moved by what the Human is and can become. Grateful for the guided journey made with companions into these realms.
Currently contributing to the growth of webs of perception, intelligence and consciousness; connective-conductivity mutuality; and the mission of evolution.


Aviv Shahar

Aviv Shahar

Aviv serves as the Portals' sherpa. He curates transformational journeys and is a storyteller of the epochal evolution culminating at this time.

Aviv is the Founder of Aviv Consulting, helping leaders unleash strategic innovation, and is the author of Create New Futures: How Leaders Produce Breakthroughs and Transform the World Through Conversation.

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