Evolving Together #2 – What Holds Us Back?
Evolving Together #2 – What Holds Us Back?

Aviv Shahar with Nigel Geeves and Well

October 19, 2023

Be honest: When we see a friend or colleague achieve a personal breakthrough — barrier overcome; milestone reached; the best of themselves coming forward — do we fully feel the value and joy of their success? Not even a tinge of jealousy, or wish that it had been us instead?

What if we embrace a very different view of each other’s accomplishments and potential? When we acknowledge and appreciate the struggles and progress in someone else, we actually create space in ourselves for the same success. We grow in ourselves by watching others grow; we liberate a greater possibility that is only accessible when we come together as “we,” beyond the ego of “me.”

What’s holding us back? Many of the outcomes of modern life: separation, fear, and trauma, which create an emotional and mental scar tissue that prevents us from trusting and accepting each other. Our natural human sensitivity is numbed, inhibiting the fountain of warmth, kindness, and generosity that is our birthright.

Fortunately, we also have higher faculties and systems, still connected to our natural intelligence and creativity, that enable growth, development, and integration with an emerging new evolutionary potential.

We explore the barriers preventing a greater human mutuality, and the seeds of our healing and integration, in part two of the conversation Evolving Together, with Aviv Shahar and two Portals' friends and life-long spiritual seekers, Nigel Geeves and Well. In part one, the three opened the question, Why evolve together?

Among their insights:

  • To evolve together we want to be fearless, which doesn’t mean having no fear. It means we're able to move forward and discover that the feeling of bravery on the inside is more powerful.
  • In our human development journey, what seemed intractable and frozen by time and trauma can melt away in the presence of a mutuality that is prepared to support life rather than arrest it.
  • The grip of what is holding us back is made stronger by fear. When we develop above fear in ourselves it no longer has credence or power and control over us.
  • Everything humans do is powered by energy, which creates a form of collective memory. It’s like a loose operating system influencing human behavior, unless we develop above our history and co-create our future.
  • The key is in our acceptance of another life and giving a space for the sharing of both of us. It’s acceptance of life to life, rather than the historic pattern of how I can win.
  • When you no longer shun, suppress, or pull outside of yourself the parts you dislike in favor of the parts you like, it becomes a fuller integration of the inner family; you are more relaxed and more yourself.

This conversation is part of the continuing Portals discovery into what is emerging on the frontiers of human experience in this time of profound change. Information about upcoming special events can be found on the Events page. Also visit and subscribe to our YouTube channel.

We can get new learning, new perception, and we can start to look beyond what has been our repetitive, if you like, blood-level experience, and learn to approach it (our history) differently.

Nigel Geeves

Nigel Geeves

Nigel Geeves

I’ve always been driven to look beneath the surface, to question how things work. This led me to be a scientist in my early years. I loved how, by observation and reflection, I could come to understand the underlying laws and see the simplicity that gives rise to life’s multiplicity of expression.

I came to know that whilst we cannot see life directly, that there was a stable platform of natural order through which all life expresses itself.  Further, I realized that we humans are not completely bound by the network of established law. What is the meaning and significance of finding oneself to be human with faculties of consciousness and choice? We humans are each unique, but how can we embrace the power of difference in harmonic pursuit of becoming fit for purpose?



Grew up on a small island, close to nature and moved by the elemental power of the tides. Creativity and science were both influential, leading to a love of writing and a study of physics - the beginning of a dance between the realms of order and freedom.

Five years of independent travel expanded horizons. Connection to the purposes of life was awakened and a knowing that an elevating epoch change was coming. Growth began into the process of sharing and integration that allows everything to work together.

Moved by what the Human is and can become. Grateful for the guided journey made with companions into these realms.
Currently contributing to the growth of webs of perception, intelligence and consciousness; connective-conductivity mutuality; and the mission of evolution.


Aviv Shahar

Aviv Shahar

Aviv serves as the Portals' sherpa. He curates transformational journeys and is a storyteller of the epochal evolution culminating at this time.

Aviv is the Founder of Aviv Consulting, helping leaders unleash strategic innovation, and is the author of Create New Futures: How Leaders Produce Breakthroughs and Transform the World Through Conversation.

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