Toward a Life Well Lived, Part Four: Holding Hands with Life Again

Aviv Shahar with Tim Coats

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As we explore the meaning of leading a life well-lived, blog author Tim Coats synthesizes core insights and advice into nine words along three key paths: be the best; look both ways; help others succeed.

All of these understandings imply a pathway that goes beyond self, or beyond the insular community that we may call a workplace or other familiar group – with an awareness of our responsibility for the consequences of our actions.

And when we begin to move beyond self, the shift often ignites a desire to help others succeed, through empowerment, and the multiplier effect that can ensue. For instance, can a brilliant leader enable 20 other people to be brilliant? How can we find the ways to help others see and connect to the best in themselves?

In this process of evolution, we find two natural impulses of development: the personal journey, and the urge toward integration and unity. In the process of discovering oneself, we then discover there is a greater something else; life actually is not about self, but is about joining with life.

‘To hold hands with God and your fellow man, and, if you let go, find a way to hold hands again.’… We're going to let go. I mean, in human relations, we're always going to let go. That's the easy part. The hard part is to hold hands again, and that has to be intentional.

Tim Coats

Tim Coats

Tim Coats

At age six, while playing with friends in our yard, I was suddenly struck with the thought, I am me!

The thought has never left me. What is the nature of awareness? How do we find joy that transcends circumstance?

I grew up in a devout Christian family, but organized religion never spoke to me. Determined to find a way, I began a thirty-year journey, reading, studying, and journaling.

Ultimately, I found the road to peace, by way of intellect, was impassable. I began a contemplative practice that is integral to my life. I reflect on this life-long journey in a blog titled, “Towards A Life Well-Lived” at

Aviv Shahar

Aviv Shahar

Aviv is the Founder of Aviv Consulting, helping leaders unleash strategic innovation, and is the author of Create New Futures: How Leaders Produce Breakthroughs and Transform the World Through Conversation.