Ten Stages in Life, Part 3

Aviv Shahar with Daphne Neveras-Lupfer

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Personal growth means gowing on the inside

Aviv: So one of the ways you're describing the shift is that we now have generations where, if a primary algorithm in our own experience in the 30s and 40s was delay gratification because we’re building now for the future, their operating system is you are alive now. Live life now, don't just live for the future.

Now we are addressing that which we call the green phase, if we use here the rainbow as a transition. Where the theme is: I am in control, or really, I am wanting to be in control. I need to get serious. So right there I'd say that's a challenge. Especially a challenge now.

Increasingly, the challenge, the experience of the 30-plus through to the 40s is, do I shape my world, or am I being shaped by all the forces around me? That is part of the tension and the conflict that's expressed very much in this age.

I think that was true for us. I think it's just now much more potent, in terms of there are greater powers, greater capabilities, but also the encroaching influences are much more challenging.

What you're describing about this generation is they have redefined the idea of growth to growing on the inside. Now, we are not prepared to live just on the outside, to delay our discovery of joy later in life. Every day is a day that will never come back. I want to be fully present in that day to the degree I can and I'm going to therefore grow on the inside.


Daphne Neveras-Lupfer

Daphne Neveras-Lupfer

Daphne Neveras-Lupfer recently retired from an IT career at a Fortune 100 company. She has been searching for truth and meaning since her teens, delving into the Unity movement and Buddhism
Aviv Shahar

Aviv Shahar

Aviv is the Founder of Aviv Consulting, helping leaders unleash strategic innovation, and is the author of Create New Futures: How Leaders Produce Breakthroughs and Transform the World Through Conversation.