Can You Be Authentic?
Can You Be Authentic?

Aviv Shahar with Jason Digges

November 17, 2022

At times it may seem the more troubling features of our collective cultural experience — polarization, conflict, isolation — appear so intractable they are now to be expected as almost normalized behaviors of modern community life. They’re not.

Each one of us has the natural intelligence and creativity to transcend polarities with a greater perspective, transform the energy of conflict into resolution, and live an authentic life true to our self-chosen path, beliefs and values. At any time we can make a conscious decision that can alter our life, relationships and community.

Fortunately, we also have tools and insights available to help explore the practice of what is known as authentic relating and creating deeper human connections. In this conversation, Aviv Shahar is joined by Jason Digges, artist, philosopher, teacher and author of Conflict = Energy. Jason is a global leader of the authentic relating movement.

Aviv and Jason take a closer look at its origins and central ideas, and the many revealing stories in Jason’s personal and professional journeys. Among their insights:

  • Our empowerment comes from our ability to see the context that we're in and make a conscious decision: Do I want to do this? Do I want to play this game?
  • If we are among the 1% that are able to somehow engage with the source code, we can potentially go through several karmic patterns in one lifetime.
  • When we come together and there is friction, we bump up against one another ― there's so much to learn. We need authenticity and courage to lean into it.
  • The foundation of authentic relating is taking multiple perspectives. We have a polarity of dignity, or my voice matters, and humility — listening to others. If either goes offline, we end up in posture or collapse.
  • These are simply tools you can use in every situation — to help you get in touch with yourself and create a space with others. That's why it's called authentic relating.
  • The first person you need to become authentic with is yourself, or there isn't really anything else.
  • Capitalism is killing us; we don’t need to abolish capitalism as an economic system, but stop capitalizing on people; stop looking at people as commodities.

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In authentic relating, we share impacts, we practice emotional clarity in and of ourselves, we practice boundaries, we practice ‘welcome everything’ and assume nothing all of these different things that we do in our relationships. But the advanced authentic relating is actually to be able to transmute the energy of a situation in a way that creates clarity, connection and teamwork - from conflicts.

Jason Digges

Jason Digges

Jason Digges

Author of Conflict = Energy: The Transformative Practice of Authentic Relating, Jason is a modern renaissance man. Equal parts artist, philosopher, teacher, and media producer, from 2003-2012 he worked for Integral Institute to create thousands of hours of educational media on the topics of transpersonal psychology, spirituality, productivity, and personal growth.

Obsessed with how humans can live and relate optimally, he’s facilitated groups and taught authentic relating and circling since 2012. Jason has led courses in over 20 cities around the world.

Visit: Jason Digges and Authentic Work

Aviv Shahar

Aviv Shahar

Aviv is the Founder of Aviv Consulting, helping leaders unleash strategic innovation, and is the author of Create New Futures: How Leaders Produce Breakthroughs and Transform the World Through Conversation.

Visit: Aviv Consulting